Lying is vicious. All of us are aware of this fact, and yet we don’t stop ourselves from lying when it comes to our relationships. When this becomes a habit, there are too many insecurities & uncomfortable circumstances that we tend to put ourselves through. We conveniently forget the stress that we put on ourselves and the other person while continuing the said behaviour!

In my 4-days program ‘Ultimate Life’, I always stress upon this point where participants ultimately understand that ‘Truth will set you free.’ Today I want to address this issue and bring light on how lying affects our relationships and trust me it is never in a good way. It always has a toxic effect on everyone involved in the relationship.

It is a web:

We are all aware of the adage ‘a web of lies’. Why is it a web? Because to avoid one lie you need ten more. To prevent those ten, you need a hundred more. And this goes on & on unless you are exhausted. Thus, if you are not a master story-teller who has no boundaries whatsoever concerning the length you shall go to in order to ensure a certain image of yourself, stop lying! It is not worth it!

Instills Fear:

Needless to say a web of lies brings along with itself a lot of fear. Fear that someone might uncover your truth, the fear of getting exposed to your insecurities, fear that people will judge you etc. This goes beyond count. Lying instils fear that you don’t need the burden of. When one truth can set you free why strain your relationships with the headache of lying? If someone does not like you the way you are, then great! This way you can find out the truth about your relationship before taking it to a more serious level. Better sooner than later, right?

Razor-sharp Memory:

If you can remember a million lies to hold onto one relationship, you can definitely remember the actual, significant details of your relationships! Instead of lying, be sensitive & pay more attention to the little things that make you & the other person happy. Lying only leads to more mistrust, regrets & deceit. You will only end up having trust issues because of pushing your luck beyond a certain point with your white lies. Then it shall become difficult to bring the relationship back to normal!

Tendency to Change:

Lying will subconsciously make you lose your true self in front of the other person. You will constantly feel the need to put up a fake demeanour & put forth “an act” merely because of your unwillingness to be honest! Isn’t it a big price to pay? And believe me, if the other person is a true friend, he/she will be able to understand the difference in your behaviour very easily! Consequentially, complications, arguments & fights will become inevitable!

Tedious Efforts:

Instead of making voluntary efforts in hiding every lie ever told to save your relationship, you can make efforts to save it by simply being truthful! Truth is bitter no doubt, but it also tests the purity of your relationships & saves you from innumerable efforts which are not only tedious but are highly unnecessary!

During the relationship session of my signature event ‘Change Your Life’ Workshop, participants dissolve years of fights and misunderstandings where they simply speak the truth. So be more honest & noble in your relationships unless you like the additional drama lying brings along with itself! However, if you want straight-forward, simple & happy relations in each sphere of your life, learn to be sensitively honest instead of being forthright with your white lies! Why don’t you pick up your phone and dial the number of that one person you have not been truthful to? Why don’t you tell him/her your honest account right now? Not unless you actually do it will you understand the power of truth!